How To Get Kids To Talk About Their Day

Every day my kids come home from school, I ask "How was your day?" 9 times out of 10, the answer is "Fine". No details of what they did or what they learned. After awhile it gets a little frustrating, feeling like I am having a one way conversation. I decided to try some different approaches and suddenly the kids started to open up a little more.

Kids are tired after a long day of school, so bombarding them with questions when they get home can be a little overwhelming. Let them take a few minutes to unwind, maybe have a snack before asking them about their day.

When asking questions it is important to ask questions that can't be answered with one word answers. I found a site that had some great examples of how to ask about your childs day and I have used them and now we have some great conversations after school. Try some of these to get your conversation started.

1. What was your favorite part about school today?

2. What activity did you like the most today? And the least?

3. If you could do any moment at school over today, what would it look like?

4. What was the funniest thing that happened in your class today?

5. Which assignment/activity did you feel most confident about today?

6. What’s the most interesting thing you heard at school today?

7. If you could change just ONE thing about school, what would that be?

8.  What made you laugh/worry/smile in school today?

9. What 3 words would you use to describe your best friend in school?

10. What qualities do you like most about your teacher?

11. What is something your teacher said to you today that you are still thinking about?

12. Who did you play with/talk with at school today?

13. What parts of school today went by the fastest? Slowest?

14. When I went to school there were some kids that were a bit mean, teasing and such…have you noticed anything like that at your school?

15. There was a boy/girl in my school when I was in grade x that was bullied all the time, I never quite new what to do about that. Have you ever felt that way?

These are some great examples I found and use often. Do you have any suggestions of questions you use that get your kids talking to you?


**Questions found on Positive Parenting Connection