Does My Child's Behaviour Reflect on Me?

Does the child's behaviour reflect on the parents? We've all asked ourselves that burning question while our child acts as if the world is going to end because we won't buy them that toy they asked for. What is that person thinking that is watching your child meltdown and you stand there wondering what you did to deserve this?

As I peeled my 2-year-old son off of the floor to talk him through his third tantrum of the day, and filed his tenth incident report from his daycare,  I thought to myself, "I certainly hope not". 

I admit it.  I'm not a disciplinarian.  Whenever, I reprimand my son, or do the dreaded count to three, I feel like an impostor.  I read Dr. Karp's, "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" and I'm trying his techniques with limited success.  I've attended workshops, discussion groups, and I've tried several different strategies, all with the same result - sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. 

When I watch other mom's disciplining their children, they appear to know exactly what they are doing, and their children seem to respond.  I must be missing something. 

My hope is that it will suddenly all just click.  All the workshops that I've attended, and the books that I've read will kick in, and I'll be able to negotiate these situations like a pro.  My son will get a little older, will be able to communicate better, and will turn into the little angel that I know he can be. 

In the meantime, don't judge me too harshly if you see me dragging my kicking and screaming toddler out of the supermarket...I'm trying my best. Join in on this discussion on our famiizuu Chat Forum and see what our mamas are saying about this topic.

This post is written by Karen Bivand, famiizuu member.

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